 The best leaders will admit they are always learning. I may not be the best leader but I am still ALWAYS LEARNING. What do you study? Why? How? Of course I study leadership. I also study psychology, religion, politics and sociology. But mostly I focus my study on leadership and improving communication skills in every possible way. Yesterday I spent several hours studying comedians. Watching their subject matter, the people and ideas they find humorous, the timing of their punchlines and the voice inflection they use for telling jokes. There is a fascinating psychology to humor. Even more fascinating is what actually makes people laugh. It’s an art form and a skill I am still trying to master. What skill are you still working on? Photo by Frederick Tubiermont on Unsplash  Happy is an attitude. An attitude is a bi-product of choices. Happy is your choice not a result of what someone does to you or for you. That’s a great thing to know because otherwise your happiness is held hostage by others. If you don’t gain control of the elements of your attitudes, you have no control of your happy. If you do gain control of the elements of your attitude, your happy is completely up to you !! As Jocko says, “Discipline = Freedom. It’s not a contradiction, it’s an equation.” If you are disciplined enough in the elements of your attitude, you are free to be happy whenever and wherever you choose. So, what are the two elements of your attitude, over which you must gain disciplined control? You have to watch the video to find out. Photo by Senjuti Kundu on Unsplash  “Welcome to Tim and Julie’s wedding.” I have never MC'd a wedding for a groom named Tim and a bride named Julie at the same wedding, but I have used that phrase hundreds of times. Because “Ladies and gentlemen may I have your attention please” has been ignored tens of thousands of times. It’s called a pattern interrupt. It is a verbal communication tool used to shake someone’s subconscious mind out of the mode that looks like paying attention all the while carrying on another conversation either inside their head or with their neighbor. Leaders and communicators need to learn to employ this tool when critical learning points are at risk of being swept under the mental rug. There are ways to test for attention and awareness when training. I will share some of these in the StoryPower Workshop on June 7th. PM me to learn more.  71% are UNready. Unfit. Not able even if they wanted to. How will that effect your business growth model over the next 5 years? Basic readiness for life is presumed by most. Yet how many “basic skills” are young people lacking today. Perhaps not the true ability to perform a simple task, but the willingness, the desire, the passion are missing. But 71% of 17-24 year old Americans are unfit to ENTER basic training. Three primary reasons are cited in the study. Obesity, lack of high school diploma and criminal record. If they are not ready for basic training, are you ready to hire them? Have we done our young people a severe injustice? Have we failed to prepare them for life? As leaders we must wake up and engage at a different level and we must do so soon. Photo by Katrina Berban on Unsplash  If you forget your human connections, your leadership is a facade! Many people have found “success” at the expense of others.
If you want to leave a legacy as a leader, begin with leading yourself then progress to solid, foundational, healthy leadership of those closest to you. Remember to honor those who gave you a chance in life. Remember to express gratitude for those who have invested in you. Remember, no matter how great you or your accomplishments are, you did not and you cannot do it all alone. “If leadership is lonely at the top, you’re doing it wrong.” John C. Maxwell. Photo by Andreas Klassen on Unsplash  What makes a rough surface smooth? What does it have to do with great leadership?
Tell It Like It Is TV with J Loren Norris providing daily leadership video lessons for faith, family and freedom. Blog & Online Courses - www.jlorennorris.com Copyright 2019 Tell It Like It Is, Inc. All rights reserved. Photo by Sandeep Singh on Unsplash  Ideas worth sharing. Yes it’s the TedTalk motto. It’s also a challenge for many leaders. It really amazes me how few people are willing to share ideas. For most of them the barrier is CREDIT! I don’t me Loke a credit score, I mean like WHO WILL GET CREDIT. Our society has come so far in many areas it’s hard to imagine going back, yet in other areas, no marked progress seems to exist. We can blame people, make excuses, take shortcuts and whine about the outcome but we cannot share an idea if someone else came up with it. We only have enough passion to carry a new idea forward if we birthed it. There is something wrong with that idea. Leaders must be able to share and give credit because the CAUSE or RESULT is greater than individual credit.  Property. People. Profit. Purity. Power. These are the 5 “P’s” of purpose I discussed behind the scenes with the leaders of the Make DALLAS One City movement.
 The superpower in your story must be discovered and mastered. Do you know the difference between Thor and Hancock?
Beyond all of these, it’s important to be authentic, vulnerable, honest and true to yourself. Hancock had super human strength and speed, but as a man, he was a jerk. Thor, on the other hand, had to demonstrate his worthiness of character before the mighty hammer could be wielded by him. We live in a day when there is a “HACK” for everything! There is shortcut to access power, a faster way to produce wealth, a trick to influence people, a prize at the end of every persuasion. The superpower in your story could be used as a manipulative form of abuse. Only integrity of character keeps that superpower in check. “YOUR STORY IS YOUR SUPERPOWER, WEAK CHARACTER IS YOUR KRYPTONITE!” J Loren Norris  RAS - you might think it’s clueless.
This part of the brain allows us to “forget” things consciously and still recall them without effort. The trick is, in order to recall, you had once to know. This applies to being a leader, speaker or trainer because you cannot recall what you never learned. Or as John Maxwell says, “You cannot give what you haven’t got.” It also applies to your team or audience because they have “learned things” from their own past which may be other than true right now. Perhaps they have been abused, lied to, taken advantage of of manipulated. The result is tragic when you trigger their past experience and they hold you accountable. Have you ever heard someone say, “The last person who told me...” then they lay out some dire consequences? Or perhaps after your making a comment, or asking a specific question someone responded with an unprecedented, unpredicted emotional response. You had no idea they would react to your words so strongly. THATS RAS! If you lead or communicate and don’t know RAS from KSA you will find yourself apologizing for being honest and confused as to why your words have unintended impact. Time to learn some additional skills in communication. Jlorennorris.com/coach |
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