Every action has a reaction. Every cause has an effect. Every choice has a consequence. The choice is yours to make. The consequence of that choice is not up to you.
ATTITUDE is part of the cycle of cause and effect because it is both cause and effect.
ATTITUDE is the result of what you think and what you feel. More specifically how you feel about what you think and what you think about how you feel.
ATTITUDE is 99% choice.
You can’t always choose what happens to you, but you must choose how you respond. If something in said to you which causes an emotional reaction, be it anger, fear, sadness or happiness, YOU ALONE choose WHAT YOU THINK about those words and the person who spoke them. YOU ALONE choose how long you hold on to and live in the EMOTIONAL REACTION.
HOWEVER - the ATTITUDE you respond with (your chosen thoughts plus your chosen emotions) WILL CAUSE another chain reaction.
NOW YOU ARE THE CAUSE - your choices are in play, but the consequences are no long in your control.
Leaders are influencers who must choose wisely and choose their ATTITUDES carefully.
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ITS WHAT YOU BELIEVE THAT DEFINES YOU NOT WHAT YOU DO.
Change and transformation begin deep inside the human psyche. Sure one can modify their behavior, but what one believes and repeats about themselves even subconsciously has more power than how we behave in public.
Many trainers, leaders and managers, even parents inspire others to change their behavior by changing habits - stopping one habit and installing a new one.
The troubles arise when the “new habit” doesn’t resonate with their deeply held beliefs. The story one tells is more directly related to deep beliefs than behavior. In the same way, changing or transforming the STORY has a closer, deeper and quicker transformation than changing habits.
Here’s one more level of truth to get a hold of, if you apply #StoryPower to your efforts of training, change and transformation, you will find beliefs can change quickly and behavior will follow more easily what we truly believe.
If you are a leader, trainer, parent learn to apply story power in your training. If you don’t know how to do that, check out StoryPower VIP Workshop
There is NOTHING manifesting in your life which had no cause. Nothing!!
Not one trial, not one success, not one pain, not one joy will ever become manifest in your life or mine lest there FIRST be a cause.
Now you must become a true journalist of your own life and ask yourself the same basic questions of every detail of your life - pleasant and unpleasant -
If you do not journal and reflect why not? Now is a good time to start, whatever your age.
When you gather the answers to the above question WRITE THEM DOWN!
Then ask yourself this: “How many of those seedlings are being cross pollinated by the stories I tell myself and others?” I believe you will be shocked how often you fertilize the weeds and starve the fruits in your life. #StoryPower
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#StoryPower is Leadership Word Leverage.
What is the leverage of your leadership? “Give me a big enough lever and I can move the world...”
Have you encountered a moment in your life where someone said something which caused you to change the course of your life? A college you chose to attend? A job you chose to accept? A person you chose to date?
A few words, when placed properly can redirect the direct and course of life. Think about it.
The placement of the fulcrum and the load is crucial to the leverage and its effectiveness. This requires an understanding of the “weight of the decision” as well as the “composition” of the lever and the “foundation of the lever.”
Your composition, your foundation, your positioning and the placement of your fulcrum are critical. Use your words wisely.
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#StoryPower can shift your perspective. Revealing hope, overcoming dire circumstances and clarifying situations is the work of stories.
It’s easy to be overwhelmed by the foggy clouds of life. Depression and anxiety follow closely behind overwhelm. Then self loathing, regret and retreat are in pursuit of your happiness.
The only way to regain your freedom and control now is through a new leash on life.
Every memory, every moment in life is a story. Every incident, good or bad, has #StoryPower. The creator of the story is YOU!
The perspective you choose to recall and retell your story through will determine the long term impact the story has on you and those around you.
Watch the video to learn more about how easily perceives circumstance can change through perspective.
Attend the #StoryPower workshop to learn to craft your own life impacting, perspective shifting stories. Jlorennorris.com/StoryPower
What are the A,B,Cs Of #StoryPower? How do they apply to YOUR daily life?
There are three key areas of your life which are directly impacted by the stories you tell. They impact and influence the life of others but they first impact and are impacted by you.
These three areas are often over looked, but when attention is paid to them, it is often in the way of the mind. We look to psychology or coaching or therapy to address these three areas and discover a deep truth. ALL THREE AREAS are driven by the stories you tell.
Wanna know what those three areas are and how you can improve your influence on them? Watch the video!! Then share it with someone you know and care about.
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#STORYPOWER IS A LEADERSHIP TOOL for building confidence.
Sometimes the greatest “story” you could ever tell is “YOU GOT THIS !” With real evidence to prove it.
Confidence and arrogance are hard to separate. Confidence is the hardest to come. True confidence is hard to fake. But a lack of confidence can evaporate hope for success faster than anything else.
When a leader can spot and point out past successes, they hold the power to instill confidence where there was none. They also have the power to lend faith or belief in someone who doesn’t have their own.
If you are an observant leader who notices and mentally or literally records the successes of your team - no matter how small the success - you have a fist full of stories to bludgeon the enemy of low confidence. Use them and activate your #storypower.
Learn more about StoryPower here.
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The best leaders will admit they are always learning. I may not be the best leader but I am still ALWAYS LEARNING. What do you study? Why? How?
Of course I study leadership. I also study psychology, religion, politics and sociology. But mostly I focus my study on leadership and improving communication skills in every possible way.
Yesterday I spent several hours studying comedians. Watching their subject matter, the people and ideas they find humorous, the timing of their punchlines and the voice inflection they use for telling jokes.
There is a fascinating psychology to humor. Even more fascinating is what actually makes people laugh. It’s an art form and a skill I am still trying to master.
What skill are you still working on?
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“Welcome to Tim and Julie’s wedding.”
I have never MC'd a wedding for a groom named Tim and a bride named Julie at the same wedding, but I have used that phrase hundreds of times.
Because “Ladies and gentlemen may I have your attention please” has been ignored tens of thousands of times.
It’s called a pattern interrupt. It is a verbal communication tool used to shake someone’s subconscious mind out of the mode that looks like paying attention all the while carrying on another conversation either inside their head or with their neighbor.
Leaders and communicators need to learn to employ this tool when critical learning points are at risk of being swept under the mental rug.
There are ways to test for attention and awareness when training. I will share some of these in the StoryPower Workshop on June 7th.
PM me to learn more.