“The effect of DRAMA, such as emotionally charged conversations, narcissistic behavior and psychological manipulation brings some sense of control and meaning back to the manufacturer of the drama.” J Loren Norris
THIS MORNING MY ADULT SON ASKED ME: “WHY DO SOME PEOPLE IN THEIR 30s STILL LIVE IN ‘TEENAGED DRAMA’?”
Many people, leaders and otherwise are still struggling with their own identity, meaning and purpose in life and the innate desire to be and feel significant.
When your life intersects with someone else and you cannot observe any impact on them whatsoever created by your presence, the emotional sense of inadequacy and obscurity will begin to eat away at your internal confidence level like termites in your hope chest. (I know, I spent a decade or more of my life living there.)
The effect of DRAMA, such as emotionally charged conversations, narcissistic behavior and psychological manipulation brings some sense of control and meaning back to the manufacturer of the drama.
How do we know? Because a two or three year old who throws themself on the floor in the grocery isle or screams “you don’t even love me” in order to get their way, is EXERCISING THE SAME TACTICS.
When someone has reached the age of maturity yet continues to exhibit the same emotionally manipulative activity to gain or maintain “relevance “ and control over someone else, they demonstrate a lack of maturity and self awareness.
This is sadly COMMON among leaders, or at least those who SEEK to be leaders. Those who crave power, title, control, influence and yet remain immature in their own issues are a danger to any organization.
They will often seek to acquire titles, accolades, acclaim, even infamy to demonstrate their significance. They will often pursue this recognition OUTSIDE OF THE ORGANIZATION with the hopes that their influence within the organization will be the beneficiary.
If you find yourself prone to drama, stop and ask yourself WHY? Why am I comfortable with this level of emotion and anxiety? Do I seek out relationships which perpetuate this state of being? Do I manufacture drama where there is none? Do I prefer chaos over peace? If you answer any of these questions in the affirmative GET A COACH OR COUNSELLOR NOW before you do irreparable damage to your career, your reputation, yourself or someone you truly care about.
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Insuperable Vision Workshop - Audio Download
Insuperable Vision Workshop - Audio Download with worksheets
Day after day I meet people who are struggling just to make ends meet. They are adrift in this vast sea of humanity holding on to their job, their family, their home, and their car with all they've got. They see their life experiences and education as the last hope to find their purpose and identity. They gather, fill and stuff all the money they can into every opportune investment. Yet they are empty, frustrated, angry and just plain fed up.
We have all experienced that moment; when we find yourself stuck in traffic, yelling at random strangers to do what they wish they could... but can't... GO!
The idea that life can be better than it is today is like the flame of a candle fighting for all its worth to stand against the tempest.
We all want a better life.
Even when life is good, we want more.
That idea, that flame, is the hope that lives in the hearts and minds of all of us. Should that flame be extinguished, hope itself may well go with it. It is the rut of hopelessness that traps many would be shining stars and buries that glow from the sight of the world. It is the rut of hopelessness that extinguishes that flame.
Lives that would have been a beacon to the wandering are lost at sea themselves. Inspirations of success that would have been the voices crying out to all who suffer are hidden away in their own stale lives, they cannot share who they are or what the world needs from them.
It is my passion to help you find your purpose. I want to see you become successful, but more than that to be free!
Without vision people perish.
Without vision, we seem to be lost, mind numb robots following the herd into the abyss that is everyday life. We do not live intentionally without a vision for our future. We do not live passionately without a vision for our future. We do not live productively without a vision for our future. We certainly cannot lead without a vision for our future and a vision for the future of those we lead.
This audio course will inspire and instruct you to create a vision which will become a significant driving force in your life.