“At some point you will need to contend with their claim to your success. IF THEY HAVE been a great mentor and contributor to your growth, GIVE THEM THE HONOR AND CREDIT for that. If they have not, be prepared to be gracious and let them have the tiny sparkles they steal from you.” J Loren Norris
What is the Value Of A Mentor? Who Needs A Mentor?
Only a fool believes they know all there is to know. Everyone else realizes there are gaps in some area of their knowledge, wisdom, education, or experience in life. Because this is true, on the fool says, “I need no mentor!”
Here are three things you should consider where seeking a mentor, IMHO.
1. Do they have the knowledge or experience you lack?
This could be a teenager with a great grasp of newer technologies or a grandparent with a deep understanding of running a successful business. This could be a parent or neighbor with great insights to navigating complicated relationships. This could be a coach who is focused on a specific skill set mastery with you.
2. Are they willing to share what they know with you?
This can be a trickier question than it seems on the surface. Many cunning and coy leaders will pretend to mentor you because they enjoy the attention and “following” all the while, they are secretly pumping you for information in areas they are blind or weak. This is especially true in industries where tightly guarded secrets have given one family or one business a significant advantage over a long period of time. They really want to know what you already know more than they want to let a secret slip.
3. Do they truly have your best interest at heart?
Similar to the last question, there are many “so called mentors” who really have not mastered the lessons needed to pass on to the next wave of warriors. They really desire to mentor because the of the ego boost it offers them. They are NOT deeply concerned with your success, well being or promotion. They want the opportunity to say “LOOK WHO I MENTORED.”
At some point you will need to contend with their claim to your success. IF THEY HAVE been a great mentor and contributor to your growth, GIVE THEM THE HONOR AND CREDIT for that. If they have not, be prepared to be gracious and let them have the tiny sparkles they steal from you.
In the end, NO ONE wants to mentor the ungrateful. Don’t be that mentee.
If you are looking for a mentor now, I would be honored to be considered. Visit the coaching page and see if we might be a fit.
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Insuperable Vision Workshop - Audio Download
Insuperable Vision Workshop - Audio Download with worksheets
Day after day I meet people who are struggling just to make ends meet. They are adrift in this vast sea of humanity holding on to their job, their family, their home, and their car with all they've got. They see their life experiences and education as the last hope to find their purpose and identity. They gather, fill and stuff all the money they can into every opportune investment. Yet they are empty, frustrated, angry and just plain fed up.
We have all experienced that moment; when we find yourself stuck in traffic, yelling at random strangers to do what they wish they could... but can't... GO!
The idea that life can be better than it is today is like the flame of a candle fighting for all its worth to stand against the tempest.
We all want a better life.
Even when life is good, we want more.
That idea, that flame, is the hope that lives in the hearts and minds of all of us. Should that flame be extinguished, hope itself may well go with it. It is the rut of hopelessness that traps many would be shining stars and buries that glow from the sight of the world. It is the rut of hopelessness that extinguishes that flame.
Lives that would have been a beacon to the wandering are lost at sea themselves. Inspirations of success that would have been the voices crying out to all who suffer are hidden away in their own stale lives, they cannot share who they are or what the world needs from them.
It is my passion to help you find your purpose. I want to see you become successful, but more than that to be free!
Without vision people perish.
Without vision, we seem to be lost, mind numb robots following the herd into the abyss that is everyday life. We do not live intentionally without a vision for our future. We do not live passionately without a vision for our future. We do not live productively without a vision for our future. We certainly cannot lead without a vision for our future and a vision for the future of those we lead.
This audio course will inspire and instruct you to create a vision which will become a significant driving force in your life.