 There is NOTHING manifesting in your life which had no cause. Nothing!! Not one trial, not one success, not one pain, not one joy will ever become manifest in your life or mine lest there FIRST be a cause. Now you must become a true journalist of your own life and ask yourself the same basic questions of every detail of your life - pleasant and unpleasant -
If you do not journal and reflect why not? Now is a good time to start, whatever your age. When you gather the answers to the above question WRITE THEM DOWN! Then ask yourself this: “How many of those seedlings are being cross pollinated by the stories I tell myself and others?” I believe you will be shocked how often you fertilize the weeds and starve the fruits in your life. #StoryPower Photo by Warren Wong on Unsplash
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 #StoryPower is Leadership Word Leverage. What is the leverage of your leadership? “Give me a big enough lever and I can move the world...” Have you encountered a moment in your life where someone said something which caused you to change the course of your life? A college you chose to attend? A job you chose to accept? A person you chose to date? A few words, when placed properly can redirect the direct and course of life. Think about it. The placement of the fulcrum and the load is crucial to the leverage and its effectiveness. This requires an understanding of the “weight of the decision” as well as the “composition” of the lever and the “foundation of the lever.” Your composition, your foundation, your positioning and the placement of your fulcrum are critical. Use your words wisely. https://www.jlorennorris.com/store.html Photo Credit: https://images.app.goo.gl/sS23uF24TZPg3ExJ8 There is a direct relationship between “your story” and your driving thoughts. Job interviews, counseling sessions, first dates all rely on stories. Which one you choose to tell is highly indicative of who you are. #StoryPower is a powerful tool for building know, like and trust. It is also a powerful tool for combatting depression, defeating suicidal thoughts, facing tough seasons in relationships and helping a hurting friend. Not every story should be a book or Tedx talk. No every story is worthy of national or international attention. But every story you have lived through has shaped your character, developed your personality and defined your reality. Every story in your life is worth analyzing and coming to grips with. Leaders need to spend time with their stories and a journal for review, consideration and alteration of their story when needed.  #StoryPower can shift your perspective. Revealing hope, overcoming dire circumstances and clarifying situations is the work of stories. It’s easy to be overwhelmed by the foggy clouds of life. Depression and anxiety follow closely behind overwhelm. Then self loathing, regret and retreat are in pursuit of your happiness. The only way to regain your freedom and control now is through a new leash on life. Every memory, every moment in life is a story. Every incident, good or bad, has #StoryPower. The creator of the story is YOU! The perspective you choose to recall and retell your story through will determine the long term impact the story has on you and those around you. Watch the video to learn more about how easily perceives circumstance can change through perspective. Attend the #StoryPower workshop to learn to craft your own life impacting, perspective shifting stories. Jlorennorris.com/StoryPower  What are the A,B,Cs Of #StoryPower? How do they apply to YOUR daily life? There are three key areas of your life which are directly impacted by the stories you tell. They impact and influence the life of others but they first impact and are impacted by you. These three areas are often over looked, but when attention is paid to them, it is often in the way of the mind. We look to psychology or coaching or therapy to address these three areas and discover a deep truth. ALL THREE AREAS are driven by the stories you tell. Wanna know what those three areas are and how you can improve your influence on them? Watch the video!! Then share it with someone you know and care about. Photo by Element5 Digital on Unsplash  #STORYPOWER IS A LEADERSHIP TOOL for building confidence. Sometimes the greatest “story” you could ever tell is “YOU GOT THIS !” With real evidence to prove it. Confidence and arrogance are hard to separate. Confidence is the hardest to come. True confidence is hard to fake. But a lack of confidence can evaporate hope for success faster than anything else. When a leader can spot and point out past successes, they hold the power to instill confidence where there was none. They also have the power to lend faith or belief in someone who doesn’t have their own. If you are an observant leader who notices and mentally or literally records the successes of your team - no matter how small the success - you have a fist full of stories to bludgeon the enemy of low confidence. Use them and activate your #storypower. Learn more about StoryPower here. Photo by 童 彤 on Unsplash  Want a 90 second $10,000 StoryPower tip? Watch the video! Learn to apply the RAS and #StoryPower to your referral process. Photo by Sharon McCutcheon on Unsplash  The best leaders will admit they are always learning. I may not be the best leader but I am still ALWAYS LEARNING. What do you study? Why? How? Of course I study leadership. I also study psychology, religion, politics and sociology. But mostly I focus my study on leadership and improving communication skills in every possible way. Yesterday I spent several hours studying comedians. Watching their subject matter, the people and ideas they find humorous, the timing of their punchlines and the voice inflection they use for telling jokes. There is a fascinating psychology to humor. Even more fascinating is what actually makes people laugh. It’s an art form and a skill I am still trying to master. What skill are you still working on? Photo by Frederick Tubiermont on Unsplash  Happy is an attitude. An attitude is a bi-product of choices. Happy is your choice not a result of what someone does to you or for you. That’s a great thing to know because otherwise your happiness is held hostage by others. If you don’t gain control of the elements of your attitudes, you have no control of your happy. If you do gain control of the elements of your attitude, your happy is completely up to you !! As Jocko says, “Discipline = Freedom. It’s not a contradiction, it’s an equation.” If you are disciplined enough in the elements of your attitude, you are free to be happy whenever and wherever you choose. So, what are the two elements of your attitude, over which you must gain disciplined control? You have to watch the video to find out. Photo by Senjuti Kundu on Unsplash  “Welcome to Tim and Julie’s wedding.” I have never MC'd a wedding for a groom named Tim and a bride named Julie at the same wedding, but I have used that phrase hundreds of times. Because “Ladies and gentlemen may I have your attention please” has been ignored tens of thousands of times. It’s called a pattern interrupt. It is a verbal communication tool used to shake someone’s subconscious mind out of the mode that looks like paying attention all the while carrying on another conversation either inside their head or with their neighbor. Leaders and communicators need to learn to employ this tool when critical learning points are at risk of being swept under the mental rug. There are ways to test for attention and awareness when training. I will share some of these in the StoryPower Workshop on June 7th. PM me to learn more.  I know you have heard it. The speaker finishes his “opening story” then says: “I am not sure why I even tell that story. It has nothing to do with what I have to say. Perhaps you’ve found it funny or at least entertaining.” NOPE - NONE OF THE ABOVE I found it to be distracting. Annoying perhaps. At minimum a waste of my valuable time which I can never recover. The only greater offense IMHO is the speaker or preacher who tells someone else’s story and forgets the punch line - or halfway through you realize they are telling a story you have heard before... IN FIRST PERSON - when you know it did not happen to them. Storytelling is both an art form and a skill to be mastered. It should not be taken so lightly or flippantly. If you are willing to invest in learning how to select the right story and when to tell it PM me to learn more about the #StoryPower Workshop coming up June 7th in Dallas, Tx.  71% are UNready. Unfit. Not able even if they wanted to. How will that effect your business growth model over the next 5 years? Basic readiness for life is presumed by most. Yet how many “basic skills” are young people lacking today. Perhaps not the true ability to perform a simple task, but the willingness, the desire, the passion are missing. But 71% of 17-24 year old Americans are unfit to ENTER basic training. Three primary reasons are cited in the study. Obesity, lack of high school diploma and criminal record. If they are not ready for basic training, are you ready to hire them? Have we done our young people a severe injustice? Have we failed to prepare them for life? As leaders we must wake up and engage at a different level and we must do so soon. Photo by Katrina Berban on Unsplash  Skills are almost as valuable as attitude. Almost. Skills can be trained, taught and mastered. Attitude is harder to teach yet still must be mastered. Even still most of today’s education, from preK to Post Grad is focused on skills development. Attitude is left to fend for itself so to speak. “We tend to hire people for what they know and what they can do. We tend to fire them for who they are!” John C Maxwell I believe we need to spend more time focused on attitude.
“Attitude Hack” is written and trained for this very specific reason. Sure we can train people to perform tasks and skills well, who wants to work with an expert who has a bad attitude. Leaders should learn to manage attitudes as well as KSAs.  If you forget your human connections, your leadership is a facade! Many people have found “success” at the expense of others.
If you want to leave a legacy as a leader, begin with leading yourself then progress to solid, foundational, healthy leadership of those closest to you. Remember to honor those who gave you a chance in life. Remember to express gratitude for those who have invested in you. Remember, no matter how great you or your accomplishments are, you did not and you cannot do it all alone. “If leadership is lonely at the top, you’re doing it wrong.” John C. Maxwell. Photo by Andreas Klassen on Unsplash  What makes a rough surface smooth? What does it have to do with great leadership?
Tell It Like It Is TV with J Loren Norris providing daily leadership video lessons for faith, family and freedom. Blog & Online Courses - www.jlorennorris.com Copyright 2019 Tell It Like It Is, Inc. All rights reserved. Photo by Sandeep Singh on Unsplash  Ideas worth sharing. Yes it’s the TedTalk motto. It’s also a challenge for many leaders. It really amazes me how few people are willing to share ideas. For most of them the barrier is CREDIT! I don’t me Loke a credit score, I mean like WHO WILL GET CREDIT. Our society has come so far in many areas it’s hard to imagine going back, yet in other areas, no marked progress seems to exist. We can blame people, make excuses, take shortcuts and whine about the outcome but we cannot share an idea if someone else came up with it. We only have enough passion to carry a new idea forward if we birthed it. There is something wrong with that idea. Leaders must be able to share and give credit because the CAUSE or RESULT is greater than individual credit.  Property. People. Profit. Purity. Power. These are the 5 “P’s” of purpose I discussed behind the scenes with the leaders of the Make DALLAS One City movement.
 Emotional resonance for communicators is a powerful way to connect. To use it, you must prepare yourself to match the vibration or energy of the crowd. Marching the crowds energy does not mean you have to stay with them. If they are slower, like after lunch or dinner you should be intentional about energizing then with your pace and presentation. If they are revved up from a strong intro or music interlude you should start at the same level and prepare to help them ride the wave like a roller coaster. But you must be aware of the revelation of your story, your teaching, your emotional connections and the energy level they will produce. Picture an oxen in the yoke or harness next to a chihuahua - that’s what happens in the mind of the audience when your emotional pace doesn’t match their current state. It’s also a tool of mirror neurons to emulate the other person. Tell It Like It Is TV with J Loren Norris providing daily leadership video lessons for faith, family and freedom. Blog & Online Courses - www.jlorennorris.com Copyright 2019 Tell It Like It Is, Inc. All rights reserved.  The superpower in your story must be discovered and mastered. Do you know the difference between Thor and Hancock?
Beyond all of these, it’s important to be authentic, vulnerable, honest and true to yourself. Hancock had super human strength and speed, but as a man, he was a jerk. Thor, on the other hand, had to demonstrate his worthiness of character before the mighty hammer could be wielded by him. We live in a day when there is a “HACK” for everything! There is shortcut to access power, a faster way to produce wealth, a trick to influence people, a prize at the end of every persuasion. The superpower in your story could be used as a manipulative form of abuse. Only integrity of character keeps that superpower in check. “YOUR STORY IS YOUR SUPERPOWER, WEAK CHARACTER IS YOUR KRYPTONITE!” J Loren Norris  RAS - you might think it’s clueless.
This part of the brain allows us to “forget” things consciously and still recall them without effort. The trick is, in order to recall, you had once to know. This applies to being a leader, speaker or trainer because you cannot recall what you never learned. Or as John Maxwell says, “You cannot give what you haven’t got.” It also applies to your team or audience because they have “learned things” from their own past which may be other than true right now. Perhaps they have been abused, lied to, taken advantage of of manipulated. The result is tragic when you trigger their past experience and they hold you accountable. Have you ever heard someone say, “The last person who told me...” then they lay out some dire consequences? Or perhaps after your making a comment, or asking a specific question someone responded with an unprecedented, unpredicted emotional response. You had no idea they would react to your words so strongly. THATS RAS! If you lead or communicate and don’t know RAS from KSA you will find yourself apologizing for being honest and confused as to why your words have unintended impact. Time to learn some additional skills in communication. Jlorennorris.com/coach  Word choice is one of the biggest traps in communication. Choosing the correct words which truly mean what your intend to say will altar the outcome. Speaking fast and loose may feel like you’re in control but the words might carry a different meaning for someone else. Have you ever had to say something like:
Speaking “from the cuff” is a constant risk, especially if you are speaking to or leading a new group, team or audience. The chances are higher that you will say something they hear differently. Take time to get to know yourself and your hearers before you communicate important messages. Leaders can not afford to be misunderstood. Photo by Rachel Lynette French on Unsplash |
Insuperable Vision Workshop - Audio Download
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Insuperable Vision Workshop - Audio Download with worksheets Day after day I meet people who are struggling just to make ends meet. They are adrift in this vast sea of humanity holding on to their job, their family, their home, and their car with all they've got. They see their life experiences and education as the last hope to find their purpose and identity. They gather, fill and stuff all the money they can into every opportune investment. Yet they are empty, frustrated, angry and just plain fed up. We have all experienced that moment; when we find yourself stuck in traffic, yelling at random strangers to do what they wish they could... but can't... GO! The idea that life can be better than it is today is like the flame of a candle fighting for all its worth to stand against the tempest. We all want a better life. Even when life is good, we want more. That idea, that flame, is the hope that lives in the hearts and minds of all of us. Should that flame be extinguished, hope itself may well go with it. It is the rut of hopelessness that traps many would be shining stars and buries that glow from the sight of the world. It is the rut of hopelessness that extinguishes that flame. Lives that would have been a beacon to the wandering are lost at sea themselves. Inspirations of success that would have been the voices crying out to all who suffer are hidden away in their own stale lives, they cannot share who they are or what the world needs from them. It is my passion to help you find your purpose. I want to see you become successful, but more than that to be free! Without vision people perish. Without vision, we seem to be lost, mind numb robots following the herd into the abyss that is everyday life. We do not live intentionally without a vision for our future. We do not live passionately without a vision for our future. We do not live productively without a vision for our future. We certainly cannot lead without a vision for our future and a vision for the future of those we lead. This audio course will inspire and instruct you to create a vision which will become a significant driving force in your life. Author
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